Tag Archives: Marriage takes Work

Alive and Writing

I have been a writing beast, so forgive radio silence. I love my new book.  I hope others will too.  131 pages down, maybe a bit more than half done? SJ, wonderful husband that he is, has been most understanding … Continue reading

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Apathy

I love world rhythms, I love international cultures.  Today I was around these things, and the joy I normally feel did not bubble up in me.  And the irony made me really sad. How does this happen? Where does apathy … Continue reading

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Sex, Marriage, and the 10-90

I have a tough time rolling with the punches, the ups and downs of life.  When there are downs, my world seems dark and hopeless, and I temporarily forget to think about all of the positives and good things. My … Continue reading

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Diamonds from the Ashes

I’ve not done a great job on taking my own advice of late.  I’ve been in a blah mood, and not so nice to hubby.  I’ve not been practicing my loving thoughts and attitudes.  Yeah, maybe a little bitchy.  Sometimes … Continue reading

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Be the Leader She Needs

We possibly can agree upon the characteristics of good leadership: Authoritative Capable Decisive Logical Planner Ability to motivate Clear statements of intentions Consideration of needs and interests Listening skills Trustworthy (evokes trust) Fair Delegates (i.e., uses the strengths of others … Continue reading

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Valentine’s Challenge

There are all sorts of Valentine’s Day challenges and ideas for a romantic day. One day.  Twenty four hours, and honestly, it may amount to a grand total of 2-3 hours with your special other.  Too many calories, too many … Continue reading

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Dear 21 Year Old Daughter

Dear 21 year old daughter: Don’t be in a hurry to marry.  Just because a lot of girls around you are graduating with their MRS and engagement rings, doesn’t mean it’s what you need to do.  Just because they have … Continue reading

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Marriage: Your Aging Parents

In the last 6 years each of us has lost a parent.  My mom’s was to an aggressive form of cancer at 77, which involved an intense period of two months’ treatments before a quick end; and SJ’s Dad’s was … Continue reading

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Marriage: Money and Finances

[A series of posts based on a letter to SJ from 18 months ago] Money isn’t everything, we like to say when we’re in love. If I just had more money, I’d be happier, might sometimes have crossed your mind. … Continue reading

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Marriage: The Need to Be Partners

[A series of posts based on a letter to SJ from 18 months ago] I am a wordy person… whether it’s in writing or speaking.  I struggle with an economy of words. SJ is a man of fewer words.  He … Continue reading

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