Category Archives: On Marriage

Love is a Decision–And Then There’s “The Feels”

For many years, I have been living that motto.  Love is NOT a feeling, it is a decision.  A choice.  Something you wake up every day electing to do… or not to do (and paradoxically, there are many memes that … Continue reading

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The Reality of Our Retirement

(I may have misnamed this post; but it’s one of those “rants” which shows that into every marriage–even the good and enduring ones–comes challenges, even when all seems to be smooth sailing.  The “day after” lessons are in green). It’s … Continue reading

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Not Attracted to Your Husband?

I did some research on this topic, because I will be honest with you, it happens to the best of us. “I love my husband but I don’t feel attracted to him…” this apparently is a plight shared by many … Continue reading

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25 Years

Here we are, 25 years together.  It’s a momentous occasion to be married two decades and a half. We are in a minority, supposedly only 33% of couples make it to 25 years. We’ve beat the odds.  Go figure. I’m … Continue reading

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Alive and Writing

I have been a writing beast, so forgive radio silence. I love my new book.  I hope others will too.  131 pages down, maybe a bit more than half done? SJ, wonderful husband that he is, has been most understanding … Continue reading

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Be Completely Humble and Gentle…

I’m a bit more active on the blogging in this season for several reasons: 1) to see how things progress in this difficult time; 2) to check in with my sanity; 3) and hopefully, to show some progress out of … Continue reading

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Weary

My amazing BFFL describes it as the mountains and valleys.  And she’s reconciled that in her marriage.  She just keeps looking forward to those mountain moments. Marriage isn’t smooth sailing for many people.  It certainly isn’t for us. Most of … Continue reading

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Why Is Communication in Marriage so Hard?

We’ve made it through another few days.  I suppose that’s something.  I need to be grateful for that. He has been diligently reading away, marriage books.  Love and Respect (The Love She Most Desires); The Respect He Most Needs); The … Continue reading

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Marriage to Glorify God

  I’ll start this out with a hallelujah for church. I know that sounds weird, but at midnight last night, I was feeling pretty depressed and hopeless.  Apathetic about my life.  Negative. Church this morning made me look at things … Continue reading

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Apathy

I love world rhythms, I love international cultures.  Today I was around these things, and the joy I normally feel did not bubble up in me.  And the irony made me really sad. How does this happen? Where does apathy … Continue reading

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