Category Archives: On Marriage

Two Plates, One Marriage

Last I checked in, I was doing a pretty good job of talking myself into resignation that our marriage was “as good as it gets.”  I think I need/needed to put that in writing to convince myself, to encourage myself.  … Continue reading

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As Good as It Gets

To those who have wondered why I’ve not written more, this is basically why:  I started this blog in the hopes that I could provide encouragement for dying marriages, that renewal, passion, and change was possible… but I have to … Continue reading

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Connections–or DISconnections

As a couple grows older together, what are the “normal” forms of connection?  Perhaps these are a few: Necessary connections (the business of life); Fun connections (enjoying life); Spiritual connections (praying and faith; the sense of knowing each other well); … Continue reading

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Cleaving Unto

“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh…” (Genesis 2:24) I have thought a lot about this verse lately, in terms of a mature marriage.  And, … Continue reading

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When Does Sex Leave the Building?

Am I here, already? I had worried about this time of life—for most of my last decade of life. For the first time in my adult life, sex holds very little appeal for me.  In the year of my 60th … Continue reading

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Love is a Decision–And Then There’s “The Feels”

For many years, I have been living that motto.  Love is NOT a feeling, it is a decision.  A choice.  Something you wake up every day electing to do… or not to do (and paradoxically, there are many memes that … Continue reading

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The Reality of Our Retirement

(I may have misnamed this post; but it’s one of those “rants” which shows that into every marriage–even the good and enduring ones–comes challenges, even when all seems to be smooth sailing.  The “day after” lessons are in green). It’s … Continue reading

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Not Attracted to Your Husband?

I did some research on this topic, because I will be honest with you, it happens to the best of us. “I love my husband but I don’t feel attracted to him…” this apparently is a plight shared by many … Continue reading

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25 Years

Here we are, 25 years together.  It’s a momentous occasion to be married two decades and a half. We are in a minority, supposedly only 33% of couples make it to 25 years. We’ve beat the odds.  Go figure. I’m … Continue reading

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