Monthly Archives: January 2017

Dear 21 Year Old Daughter

Dear 21 year old daughter: Don’t be in a hurry to marry.  Just because a lot of girls around you are graduating with their MRS and engagement rings, doesn’t mean it’s what you need to do.  Just because they have … Continue reading

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Pro-Life or Pro-Choice?

I’m facing a bit of a personal moral crisis.  And the biggest part of the crisis is that in this time in history, I can’t– or shouldn’t–say, write, or discuss anything that might offend someone, or limit someone’s legal rights. … Continue reading

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I’m Praying For You…

I’m Praying for You… Today I learned a little lesson. Telling a known non-believer “I’m praying for you,” no matter how sweetly or sincerely, is insulting. What?  How could they be insulted?  Aren’t we doing a “nice thing?”  “Nice” in … Continue reading

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Mea Culpa and #Not My President?

This Presidential Election process has been so toxic.  I’ve seen it bring out some of the very worst in people.  People I really, really like and care for. I began writing this post with an uncertain purpose– was I looking … Continue reading

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Valentines

The pretty decorations and lights of the Christmas season are down.  The bare, lifeless, branches of trees silhouetted against grey winter skies.  Winter snows that transform our scenery into a powdery white wonderland soon become dirty slush and a nuisance. … Continue reading

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Marriage: Your Aging Parents

In the last 6 years each of us has lost a parent.  My mom’s was to an aggressive form of cancer at 77, which involved an intense period of two months’ treatments before a quick end; and SJ’s Dad’s was … Continue reading

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Marriage: Kids, the Great Lightning Rod

  [A series of posts based on a letter to SJ from 18 months ago] SJ was the better parent, in many ways. There.  I admitted a hard truth. But then, there is MY side to this story. I believe … Continue reading

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Marriage: Money and Finances

[A series of posts based on a letter to SJ from 18 months ago] Money isn’t everything, we like to say when we’re in love. If I just had more money, I’d be happier, might sometimes have crossed your mind. … Continue reading

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Marriage: The Need to Be Partners

[A series of posts based on a letter to SJ from 18 months ago] I am a wordy person… whether it’s in writing or speaking.  I struggle with an economy of words. SJ is a man of fewer words.  He … Continue reading

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It’s Hard Work, This Marriage Thing

My marriage has been a work in progress from day one.   It seemed doomed to fail. After our first year, and then for 20 long years after, our marriage just seemed to get worse. Many would have cut their … Continue reading

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